Be True to Thy Self!!!

A Woman’s Worth Is Far More Than Rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Woe is me… A popular song women choose to sing on certain holidays and during this time of year. Tis the season! Wedding bells are ringing, extravagant cakes with four to five tiers are being baked, expensive wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses are shopped for as we speak. Although, through it all there are female participants in the festivities and bystanders wondering, moaning… “Why not me?”

Always a bridesmaid never a bride.

A couple of female friends and I sit comfortably in my living room sipping wine and playing catch up. The conversation is wonderful then here it comes. The mood takes a turn that I have no interest in because they always hate my outlook. I’m not wielding pom- poms! All from one jealous statement. “Why is Susan getting married?” “When will it be my turn?” Faces turn red, eyes are rolled! Negative and slandering statements are made about the soon- to- be bride. The male bashing begins!!! I reach for my wine in aggravation! Thinking about the character of each woman as a glance around the room. Two, are not married for good reason!!! No shade! My friends are quite aware of how I feel.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect! If I was, I would not be single. I’m the woman who tries to fix men. I will find a bad boy and dress him in a suit and tie and call him “reformed”. LOL!!! But, if I know nothing else… I know my worth! As a woman, the one thing we should not do is measure ourselves against another woman. What is even more deplorable is stomping on another woman’s success. Shame on you!

The woman in the mirror!

Instead of standing in the mirror taking duck-faced selfies, look into the depths of yourself. Again, I am not throwing stones. I have one or two duck- faced photos of myself on Instagram. Although, when I look into the mirror I rather speak positivity into myself. Mantra’s like:

“I am beautiful; We may hear it from men constantly but it means the world when you say it to yourself.”

“I am strong; It helps me through the times that I feel weak.”

“I am successful; Quiets the voice that says, you will fail.”

“I am who I say I am; Powerful against all self- doubt.”

Ever heard the saying… Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free? I asked the women that question. Of course, I giggled at the looks of contempt. So, I explained myself. Half naked pictures advertising that you’re single. More than willing to sell your virtue for dinner and a movie. Maybe a trinket or a trip here and there. Why in hell should he put a ring on it? Newsflash ladies: Men are looking for a woman, not a girl using her looks and body for an opportunity.

Who can find a virtuous woman?

Listen for a moment! Do you hear that? Men are asking their counterparts, married homeboys, and mothers… Where do I find a virtuous woman? My brothers, guy friends, workmates, business partners ask me that very question. They claim to want a woman who is going to add stability to my life. I need an equal! You would not believe how men truly feel about women.

“Women are just as aggressive as men. You don’t have to work for it!”

“It’s ok for a one night stand but I would never take her home to meet mom.”

“She’s not wife material.”

“Women nowadays are golddiggers.”

If this is the type of woman I have to look forward to then why commit? So, men rather play the field and drink the milk of all the free cows roaming around. Once they get their fill or use up one, they move on to the other. You, my friend, are left empty and wondering what went wrong. Did you think he was the one?

You are powerful!

Stop giving up your power! He does not define who you are. Find your worth within yourself and you will attract he who is worthy of you. Decide what you can and will bring to the table and whether he is worthy to take a seat! It’s okay to eat alone!!! Once you realize that you’re worth more than rubies you will never again settle for being treated like costume jewelry.

Don’t worry ladies, I know there are two sides to a coin. Part two will talk about those men who are “dazed and confused”.

 

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A Truly Professional Truck Driver

“Appearance matters a great deal because you can often tell a lot about people by looking at how they present themselves.”

When you think about a professional truck driver, the first thing that comes to mind is someone who drives trucks for a living. If I then asked you to describe a truck driver, some would use the following adjectives…. loud, rude, dirty, smelly, unkempt, etc. These words would be a true description for many but not for all.

I have encountered truck drivers besides my Jimmy (TruckersLife09), who care about their appearance and are very intelligent. You would be surprised to know that countless truck drivers are military veterans. Like ourselves they are continuing to serve their country. It is embedded in the mind of a veteran to be presentable and inspection ready at all times. We take pride in that! Proud american truckerI’m not saying veterans are the only presentable truck drivers. There are those who look like something the cat coughed up!!! Your local trash collector looks, smells, and can articulate better. if given the opportunity you would rather deal with him.

I remember a day when Jimmy delivering a load to a Walmart Distribution Center. Presentable as always with his short sleeved polo shirt, a white thermal underneath to protect his arms from the cold. His jeans were crisply pressed and clean Nike sneakers. Jimmy is a clean shaven type of guy he sports a goatee and bald head and wears Polo Blue Cologne. I could understand why he received so many compliments from the ladies in the shipping and receiving offices of his many customers. Continuing to survey the other drivers coming and going I saw why people have such a bad perception of truck drivers. Disgusted by the parade of men and women wearing filthy clothes, tank tops and half buttoned shirts, pants hanging low beneath buttocks, pajama bottoms and flip- flops. They all looked as if they had not showered in months.

Suddenly, a sparkling clean red and chrome PeterBilt truck pulled up on the passenger’s side. Of course, being the type of woman that loves old muscle cars, bikes (not crotch rockets) and trucks. I had to examine this beautiful machine! My expectation was for a dirty, unkempt guy to descend from this beautiful rig. This handsome gentleman with clean brown cowboy boots, wranglers with a shiny truck belt buckle, red flannel shirt and a brown cowboy hat stepped down. He descended from the rig as if dismounting the most beautiful stallion you have ever seen. The smell of Old Stetson wafted in the window, the elixir mesmerized me further into a trance. The anonymous cowboy looked up at me high on my perch, tipped his hat with a smile and moseyed on. Needless to say I blushed and giggled like a shy little school girl.cowboy

Jimmy and his fellow driver are living examples of how a professional driver should look. It’s not difficult to maintain a presentable appearance while over the road. Companies like Averitt and Walmart have resorted to requiring their drivers to wear uniforms. I’m sure there are countless drivers who would not like the idea of converting to uniforms. It’s imperative that drivers influence one another to pull up their pants, wash their clothes and conduct business with a fresh clean appearance. Maintaining respect for yourself demands respect from those you come in contact with, not only for you but for your company as well.

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