Be True to Thy Self!!!

A Woman’s Worth Is Far More Than Rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Woe is me… A popular song women choose to sing on certain holidays and during this time of year. Tis the season! Wedding bells are ringing, extravagant cakes with four to five tiers are being baked, expensive wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses are shopped for as we speak. Although, through it all there are female participants in the festivities and bystanders wondering, moaning… “Why not me?”

Always a bridesmaid never a bride.

A couple of female friends and I sit comfortably in my living room sipping wine and playing catch up. The conversation is wonderful then here it comes. The mood takes a turn that I have no interest in because they always hate my outlook. I’m not wielding pom- poms! All from one jealous statement. “Why is Susan getting married?” “When will it be my turn?” Faces turn red, eyes are rolled! Negative and slandering statements are made about the soon- to- be bride. The male bashing begins!!! I reach for my wine in aggravation! Thinking about the character of each woman as a glance around the room. Two, are not married for good reason!!! No shade! My friends are quite aware of how I feel.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect! If I was, I would not be single. I’m the woman who tries to fix men. I will find a bad boy and dress him in a suit and tie and call him “reformed”. LOL!!! But, if I know nothing else… I know my worth! As a woman, the one thing we should not do is measure ourselves against another woman. What is even more deplorable is stomping on another woman’s success. Shame on you!

The woman in the mirror!

Instead of standing in the mirror taking duck-faced selfies, look into the depths of yourself. Again, I am not throwing stones. I have one or two duck- faced photos of myself on Instagram. Although, when I look into the mirror I rather speak positivity into myself. Mantra’s like:

“I am beautiful; We may hear it from men constantly but it means the world when you say it to yourself.”

“I am strong; It helps me through the times that I feel weak.”

“I am successful; Quiets the voice that says, you will fail.”

“I am who I say I am; Powerful against all self- doubt.”

Ever heard the saying… Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free? I asked the women that question. Of course, I giggled at the looks of contempt. So, I explained myself. Half naked pictures advertising that you’re single. More than willing to sell your virtue for dinner and a movie. Maybe a trinket or a trip here and there. Why in hell should he put a ring on it? Newsflash ladies: Men are looking for a woman, not a girl using her looks and body for an opportunity.

Who can find a virtuous woman?

Listen for a moment! Do you hear that? Men are asking their counterparts, married homeboys, and mothers… Where do I find a virtuous woman? My brothers, guy friends, workmates, business partners ask me that very question. They claim to want a woman who is going to add stability to my life. I need an equal! You would not believe how men truly feel about women.

“Women are just as aggressive as men. You don’t have to work for it!”

“It’s ok for a one night stand but I would never take her home to meet mom.”

“She’s not wife material.”

“Women nowadays are golddiggers.”

If this is the type of woman I have to look forward to then why commit? So, men rather play the field and drink the milk of all the free cows roaming around. Once they get their fill or use up one, they move on to the other. You, my friend, are left empty and wondering what went wrong. Did you think he was the one?

You are powerful!

Stop giving up your power! He does not define who you are. Find your worth within yourself and you will attract he who is worthy of you. Decide what you can and will bring to the table and whether he is worthy to take a seat! It’s okay to eat alone!!! Once you realize that you’re worth more than rubies you will never again settle for being treated like costume jewelry.

Don’t worry ladies, I know there are two sides to a coin. Part two will talk about those men who are “dazed and confused”.

 

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International Women’s Day!!!

“The day will come when men will recognize woman as his peer, not only at the fireside, but in councils of the nation. Then, not until then, will there be the perfect comradeship, the ideal union between the sexes that should result in the highest development of the race.”   – Susan B. Anthony

 

Happy International Women’s Day! As a female entrepreneur and writer this day is a very important day. Today we celebrate being a female world- wide. Sometimes, as women in society with all that we do, we don’t get enough praise or recognition. Women wear many hats! It does not matter where you live in this beautiful world, women are a driving force in society. We are working mothers, business owners, wives, doctors, the list goes on. Often pulled in so many different directions at once. Women are not forced to play these roles, it is our innate ability. We handle these different roles with the utmost grace!!!

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Behind Every Successful Man There Is a Woman.

Remember when there was a time when we were not allowed to own a business, be a soldiers, or a working mom? Those times began to end on February 28, 1909, the first Women’s Day observance was held in New York. The march was the first outward protest for equality. As the universe revolved, time went on and women evolved. No longer satisfied by our mediocre position in the world. We not only demanded but claimed our right to be more as well as do more in the world. Thanks to the delegates consisting of 100 powerful women from 17 countries who promoted the end of suffering and oppression of the female gender. After 1977, International Women’s Day was made a popular event. United Nations General Assembly proclaimed March 8 as the UN Day for women’s rights and world peace. No longer standing behind men but leading and walking with them. The fight for equal pay continues but proud of the accomplishments made thus far. Indeed we have come a long way.

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Girl Power! 

The stigma attached to women stating that we cannot work together and support one another is a thought of the past. Women are encouraging and supporting each other more than ever. Realizing, who better to support our goals and aspirations than another woman. Yes, our families are a strong support system. Although, outside influence is needed and appreciated as well. It is important to surround yourself with like minded people. The theme for International Women’s Day 2016 is “Planet 50- 50 by 2030: Step It Up for Gender Equality”. Celebrate by finding a local event near you. Visit the International Women’s Day website to search for events in your city, there are many ways to get involved. Women working together in perfect harmony for empowerment is beautiful. So on this joyous day I say to women everywhere “Happy International Women’s Day” (wine glass raised). Cheers!!!

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